Clarify your concerns: safety, health, isolation, home maintenance, or finances.
Research options: independent living, assisted living, home care, or smaller homes so you can offer solutions instead of only raising problems.
2. Pick the Right Time & Setting
Choose a calm, private time when they’re not tired, rushed, or stressed.
Avoid holidays or family gatherings where they may feel “ganged up on.”
3. Lead with Empathy & Respect
Acknowledge the difficulty: “I know how much this home means to you.”
Affirm their independence: “We want to make sure you have as much control as possible in the decision.”
Ask questions before offering advice, so they feel heard.
4. Frame It Around Their Needs & Wishes
Safety: “We worry about stairs and falls. How do you feel about that?”
Social life: “Do you sometimes feel isolated here? Would you enjoy more chances to be with people?”
Relief: “It might be nice not to worry about yardwork or home repairs anymore.”
5. Involve Them in the Process
Tour communities together.
Ask them what matters most—location, activities, medical support, meals, or privacy.
Give them time to adjust—this is usually not a one-conversation decision.
6. Expect Resistance & Be Patient
It may take several conversations.
Validate feelings even if you disagree: “I understand you don’t feel ready. Let’s just explore what options exist so we’re prepared if the time comes.”
7. Bring in Support if Needed
Sometimes doctors, social workers, clergy, or trusted friends can reinforce the message.
Parents may take concerns more seriously from professionals than from their children.